Hello,
We know you must be going through an incredibly challenging time, facing decisions that you never imagined. We want you to know that we think you are incredibly brave and selfless to include adoption in your possible outcomes. We know that considering adoption raises so many questions – we have had quite a few of our own as well, and most likely have had a longer time to think about them. Whatever your decision is, we want you to know that we value you as a person and respect whatever path you determine is right for you.
If you do chose adoption, we would be honored if you would consider us to be a part of your plan. We have always known that we want to expand our family through the addition of a child, as we have always known that the right person will come along to give us that special gift. We know our path begins with you, and we want you to know that we firmly believe in open communication. We want you to know as much about us as you care to know. We are also very comfortable with openness in the adoption, and hope that our child will know who you are. Whatever you wish on communication and contact may be, we want you to know that our goal is for our child to always know their story, which starts with you. We will always honor your presence, your gift to us, and acknowledge that you made our family a reality.
We are a very stable, happy, loving couple that strives each day to live life to its fullest, support and love each other, be empathetic to those around us, find joy in life, and be a positive force in all we do. We love to travel the world and experience new places and people, as much as we love to stay at home watching movies. (OK, we’ll admit that we are also huge YouTube fans and probably spend too much time there!) We think what makes our life so complete is the fact that we both come from very different experiences, but we hold the same values, expectations, and life goals. Armando comes from a very large Mexican-American family and speaks fluent Spanish. He works as a Director in a French company and is incredibly fun to be around. Tod is an attorney with a federal law enforcement agency. And while his job is rather serious, people we meet are always surprised he is a lawyer because he is very easy going, engaging, and very positive in his outlook on life.
We know there is no way this letter can describe us totally to you. We can say that Armando already has a ton of “Dad Jokes” lined up, Tod loves to play tennis and is a huge Novak Djokovic fan, we have two amazingly cute and fun Aussiedoodles named Turtle and Monkey, we love our families more than anything, Armando never uses a recipe in the kitchen and makes amazing food, or that Tod loves documentary films. We can also tell you that we cannot wait to provide a supportive, loving, enriching, safe and fun upbringing to our child, devoid of judgment, negativity, and unreasonable expectation. We hope to provide all of the tools our child will need to lead a happy, fulfilled life. We know what it is like to grow up feeling different, and the most important thing to us is that our child knows that he or she is loved unconditionally, supported in their endeavors, and feels validated and empowered to follow their own path in life.
What we cannot capture in this letter is whether there is a connection between you and us that makes this the best decision for you. We truly hope that you will reach out to us in whatever way you feel comfortable, and we can explore this possibility together. In the meantime, we wish you all of the best in your life. We hope you are in a supportive environment, or are seeking out resources if necessary. We know that you will make the right decision, and we can only hope that it will include us.
Truly,
Tod and Armando